Waiting Game

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Fast forward seven weeks. I think about this blog all the time but obviously don't write very often. I'm on maternity leave now and am about 37 weeks pregnant, which means baby could technically come at any time. Have my attitudes about the pregnancy and being a mother to two changed very much in the last two months? Yes and no.  This baby will come whether or not I am ready. I am hoping to have a couple of weeks to really settle in to the idea of having two. I am excited to meet the baby. I wonder what it looks like. I'm very nervous about dealing with having two young children, but hopefully I'll have some coping tools and things won't be so bad. There's really no point worrying about it.

I am fairly sure I have all the birth supplies I need, except for making some food for my support people to eat during the labour. I have a big rubbermaid that I need to gather all the various items together and put into... the birth pool and pump, the plastic sheets to go under it and on the bed in case I use the bed.

Right now the biggest adjustment is just getting used to being at home again after not doing this for the last 18 months. It feels very strange, right now it just feels like a long weekend. This will take some getting used to!

All Out Of Love

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I'm going to be thirty weeks pregnant in a couple of weeks. Since this is baby #2, I might not make it to fourty! So that's kind of scary. Lately I get upset thinking about it because my little girl isn't going to be an only child anymore. I remember the transition from childless to being parents of one, and it ends up being really difficult to remember the life you had before. It scares me that just a couple of days after having this baby, I'm going to be struggling to remember what life was like before baby #2. I know that giving my daughter a sibling is going to be a huge blessing in her life, but I can't help but feel just awful about it sometimes because my love is going to be divided between two kids. People say that it just grows to fit the two, and I guess it will, but it's hard to imagine it right now. Ask me in a couple of months.

Returning

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Life got very busy. I actually started working about a month after my last post when my daugher was six months old. Now I'm expecting baby #2 so I am thinking about things again and wanting a place to express those things, and to bring together all the research I do for this pregnancy.

I reread all my old blog posts (yes, all overwhelming four of them!) and I notice that I will need to do an updated cloth diaper post based on my experiences over the last nearly 18 months with cloth diapering. We are still using them but with a few little changes. Note to self to make that post!

I'm due in January 2010 and am currently about six and a half months pregnant. I'm planning on going the same route as last time, with a few small exceptions. I'm lucky enough to have the same midwife, planning another homebirth and waterbirth as an option. The differences are that this time around I've also hired a Doula and have been seeing a chiropractor for the last two months.

The pregnancy this time around has been fairly difficult, but that's improved a lot since I started seeing the chiropractor. The alignment of my pelvis and spine combined to give me contractions that put me off work and on bedrest for a week at 18 weeks. Very painful and distressing, but it was a relief to find the cause and be able to work on treating it. Now I just have to take it fairly easy and listen carefully to my body so I don't overdo it, or I have pain again.

This time around the morning sickness started earlier at 4-5 weeks and lasted until 19-20 weeks! I just keep reminding myself that it's worth it in the end, but incredibly difficult while you're going through it.
It's hard to find the time to do the reading I did during the last pregnancy. I have about three hours at home every day where I'm actually awake, and those hours are taken up with evening routines, making dinner, spending time with my daughter, trying to catch up on housework and chores, watching tv. It goes by very quickly. I still don't know how working mother's do it all, and I've been one for well over a year!

Product Review: Sophie the Giraffe

I had my eyes on Sophie for awhile but I was holding off on purchasing her until I was ready to make my next big cloth diaper purchase. I showed her to my Mum (who lives in Australia) and talked about the chemicals in a lot of kids toys these days and how Sophie was made from natural rubber, etc... a few days later I was chatting with my friends from pregnancy.org about Sophie and how we were all thinking about buying one. That day I found her in the mail box! My Mum was nice enough to buy her for Desana. You can't imagine my surprise and confusion, going from thinking about buying it and finding her in the mailbox on the same day!

What's so great about Sophie? Basically she's a teething toy. She's made of natural rubber so there's no need to worried about your baby chewing on her all day long. I am worried about the chemicals in plastic and don't trust a lot of cheap plastic toys (how good is a $2 toy made in China really going to be for your baby?), so it's really nice to have something I know is safe.

I'm not going to talk too much about the chemical risks, etc. but you can read all about Sophie the Giraffe at By Nature (Yep, that site again).

Desana loves her. She took to her straight away and plays with and chews on her all the time.
Here she is on their first encounter.

And here she is a day or two ago... I think I had this shot in my previous blog post!

I've heard some concerns about the ears and knobbly bits on the head maybe being dangerous for the baby but they are actually part of what makes this such a great teething toy. I actually gave her a chew myself and there is no way a child could bite those off, I don't think I could!

Sophie is about $20 CND and well worth every dollar! I think she would make a great gift for any new or young baby. You know you are giving something that is SAFE, and that's what is most important.

Product Review: Fuzzibunz, BumGenius 3.0, Happy Heiny's OS & Sized

Before my daughter was born I had every intention of putting her in cloth diapers. What I didn't have was hundreds of dollars to make the initial investment. My Mum purchased some flats/prefolds for me, but I was too intimidated to use them. Then with the baby showers and gifts came literally hundreds of disposable diapers. I figured I might as well use them.

Now my daughter is 4 months old and I finally purchased some 'modern' cloth diapers to try out before deciding to invest more money. I bought the Dazed & Confused Pocket Package from bynature.ca for roughly $102 CND.

It came with a bumgenius 3.0 One-Size (8lbs-35lbs), happy heiny's size small (8lbs-16lbs), happy heiny's One-Size (8-35lbs) and a fuzzibunz size small (7lbs-18lbs). I decided to try pocket diapers after much research. With pockets you remove the inserts to wash and dry, and they dry fast. In addition they have the advantage of just being able to add an additional insert for nighttime or if your baby is a heavier wetter.

First I had to wash all the diapers and inserts before use. That is an adventure in and of itself. I personally find washing cloth diapers to be scary as I'm afraid of ruining them... But I'm slowly getting over it. That's a story for another time.

Baby is thrilled at the prospect of having a fluffy butt!

First I put her in the fuzzibunz.

It's a great diaper. Because it's sized it's very fitted. It is designed with a top and bottom row of snaps, so you can really adjust the fit according to your little one's shape. It is initially a bit fiddly but you figure it out soon enough. It's not at all bulky so baby isn't struggling to move while wearing it.. AND it is SO cute. I love it but will not be making it my primary diaper because it's expensive. The website estimates $1100 in spending costs if you use Fuzzibunz alone, which is much cheaper than disposables. And the advantage of a sized system is that it lasts longer and may very likely be of use for more than one baby. But the initial investment for 24 size small FBs is around $650 (that's with two inserts for each diaper included). Great if you can afford it, but I currently can not.

Next up I tried the sized Happy Heiny's. I didn't like it very much at all. After using the FBs I also found the large velrcro tabs at the front to be very bulky. I also discovered it leaked at the legs.

As you can see the elastic dug into her back even with the front loose. It left dark red marks that looked painful or at least like it would be uncomfortable.

After just one wash the stitching covering the elastic at the back came apart.

Perhaps needless to say I did not like this diaper very much at all.

Next up we tried the BumGenius 3.0. I don't have great pictures of her in this diaper, so I apologise in advance.

I love this diaper. It is a one-size so it has the potential to fit up through toddlerhood. It is very trim, not very bulky at all. The leg fit is nice and snug, the snaps on the rise make it so it's not hanging down to her knees, and the velcro at the waist makes for a snug fit. I have had her in this diaper three times for overnights. Usually if she is in a disposable when we wake up in the morning and I lift the blanket off her there is a horrible smell of urine and diaper chemicals. There is none of that with the BG, and with two inserts for night time there are no leaks.

I really love this diaper and I plan on purchasing another 12 in the next month. Because it will be washed regularly over the few years she is wearing them, it probably won't last for use on a second baby unless we have another one straight away. But an advantage of this system is that if you have two babies in diapers at the same time, you can use the same diaper on them both, just adjust the size. Pretty nifty! For about $500 you can have your baby in BumGenius diapers from birth through potty training.

Last up is the Happy Heiny's One Size. Now you might say I was just biased against it because of my experience with the sized variety, and having loved the Bumgenius OS. You might be right.

For some reason Desana decided to be smiley at the camera on this day! We haven't had any problems with it but I don't love it. It doesn't leak like the sized one did, but I do find it to be a bulker diaper than the BG. Also, again, the large velcro tabs are annoying.

Baby's movement is more restricted in this diaper than in the BG. Right now she has more trouble rolling around in this diaper. I'm not planning on purchasing any more of this brand. If you were interested in this system the overall cost in comparison to BG 3.0's is
only an additional $20-$30.

In conclusion, there are very many different kinds of pocket diapers (these are just a few), and even more varities of cloth diapers. It's really about what works for you. I took a lot of time researching my choice until I settled on pocket diapers. Once you try them you'll find they are easier than you think. They can be very cute, and every time you put your baby in a cloth diaper, that's one less disposable diaper in the landfill... or even more when you consider that cloth is reuseable, disposables are not! There are many different websites with the facts and figures of disposable versus cloth, I'm not going into that. This is just my personal experience. Hopefully you can benefit from it.